Even if you know who you are or what you want, doesn’t mean that everything becomes easy and smooth sailing. You still have to figure out who to get where you want to go, you have to figure out how to get the money, how to work with other people, how to deal with issues as they arise. And then there are the pesky things like underlying issues, fears, obligations, families of origin who now believe you are crazy and need an intervention. It can be very challenging.
So what do you do? Give up, barrel through it, create drama, try to work around it? These things are the mile markers, the steps along the way that say, at least you’re doing it. Because life is not a goal oriented proposition. That’s just a way of thinking of it that helps us make sense of it’s enormity. Life is a conversation with yourself, the people you love, and everything else around you. And it can be glorious, it can be boring, it can be agonizing, or just hum drum. But one thing I know for sure, if you’re not participating actively and fully, you are missing out.