Be specific but don’t be limiting

I’ve heard it said that teachers in mystery schools are intentionally vague and frustratingly non-sensical when it comes to teaching about the Universe and how to be your best self in it.  I’ve experienced that myself and on the one had I understand it because no teacher can give you the experience of doing it…

Confrontation to Conversation

Confrontation has become a really negative word.  No one wants confrontation.  It’s equated with unnecessary drama, discomfort, awkwardness, and negativity. It’s been associated with anger, fury, and personal attacks, harassment, control, and abuse.   It has become something to be avoided at all costs.  In order to avoid confrontation, problems need to be ignored, worked around…

Check yourself and check your sources

There’s such a thing as black humor.  It’s the humor that happens when a situation is grim, stressful, and things have been difficult far too much or too long or too often.  Some people find it inappropriate, but when you’re in the middle of things it can really help create solidarity, relieve tension, and break…

Skunk Medicine

To paint things in rather broad strokes, most if not all Native American cultures use animal behavior to teach them about the right way to live.  Coyote’s antics tell us what not to do. Rabbit tells us how to avoid negativity, mouse shows us what happens if we keep our nose too much in our…

The Disappointments

My life is busy.  Anyone that knows me will tell you the same and call that an understatement.  There are a bazillion things I love to do and I try to fit them all in, plus the things that are good for me, plus there’s all the things about my Spirituality that call me and…

Anxiety

Everyone has it at some point in their life.  It can be over an interview for a job, going on a first date, bungee jumping, meeting someone who is important to you, skiing downhill, speaking in public, swimming….you name it, it can cause anxiety.  Which is not necessarily a bad thing.  Anxiety pumps us up,…

Knowing what you want

I have a friend that’s amazing at this.  She just knows what she wants.  And she can tell you all about it.  All the details are in her head and they change from moment to moment and they sometimes conflict with each other and like a flock of peacocks they all vie for attention as…

Have a little Joy

You would not believe how allergic to joy or even happiness some people are.  I’m constantly amazed by this because, don’t we all want to be happy?  Lord knows I do and therefore I put my energy into doing things and being around people and in situations that support my souls purpose and the happiness…

Why did this happen to me?

Human beings look for patterns and for meaning in everything. This is our means of being safe since we don’t have claws or amazingly sharp teeth, incredible speed or bulk to keep us out of harms way.  We need to understand why even if it’s just at the level of “why is the remote now…

The Tantrum Factor

As children a theme in our life is about authority, access, and power over.  Having access to a room in the house so I can call it my own, power over siblings, having authority to make the choice of what to eat or what to do any given day…which all sounds so malevolent, but really…