Broken Trust

Healing is a multistage process not matter what kind it is. Usually we can group the stages into two main phases: triage and recovery.  Triage is when we or others stop what is happening from going any further and then start the repair of the damage.  Think of a broken leg.  Triage would be to…

How To Deal With Fear

I sometimes wonder what our culture would look like if we didn’t have the heroic ideal as the role model for how we should deal with problems or fears.  If we didn’t have all the rhetoric around standing your ground, facing your fears head on, working through the pain, going on no matter what the…

The Body Remembers

The body has a knowing.  One way we experience this is through muscle memory which we experience through two general categories. The most commonly discussed is that used by athletes, dancers, performers, and martial artists which is gained through repetition of an action or set of actions.  Everyone uses this to some extent for activities…

Tilting At Passions

People say they don’t know what they are passionate about, but that’s not really so.  If you scratch the surface you’ll find they are passionate about a whole lot of things on the plus and minus side. If they weren’t they wouldn’t have that rule about not discussing politics or religion with most anyone and…

Is It Working?

When I’m not working with clients I’m creating new content from blog posts to the weekly teaching newsletter to class writing or book writing.  Wedged in there is the necessary business things that make a business go.  For the most part things run smoothly so there’s not a lot of paperwork or adjustment that needs…

Once Again With Feeling

Our minds are amazing problem solvers.  If we start thinking about something, even vaguely, all of a sudden information start spooling out, ideas about what I could do with that, what could be, how I would do it differently, ‘hmmmm…I’d like to know more about that…’, and on and on.  Even if it’s just an…

Day Of The Dead

The Day of the Dead is one of my most favorite holidays.  It’s a celebration acknowledging the seasonal nature of human life, how nobody is getting out of embodiment alive, so to speak.  🙂 Instead of seeing this as a tragedy, as something to mourn and be afraid of or fight against which steals what…

Take Your Costume Off

Happy Halloween everyone!  A great many people see today’s holiday as the day when they can dress up as someone or something else.  It’s the day for costumes and makeup and creativity and fun.  It’s a time of masks. What people don’t think about is that the lives they’ve constructed for themselves is actually the…

Putting the Pieces Together

Our lives are like the fridge in the kitchen or the note board on the wall.  Lots of things of various importance that we need to remember, access and deal with at some point all gathered together into some kind of system-ish.  It all makes some kind of sense to us on most days sort…

Fun House Mirrors

It’s truly impossible to see or know all aspects of ourselves because we can’t be impartial, kinda by definition. People and situations hold up mirrors for us so we can see who we are and the ramifications of our actions more clearly.  Not perfectly, but it’s a great tool we should be…looking into.  Ahem.  Moving…