Friendship

I’m a fan of John Scalzi and of his blog, http://whatever.scalzi.com/  He’s an intelligent writer with a sense of humor I appreciate.  What’s better is that he writes with a great deal of common sense and, most of the time, having thought about the topic beforehand. …

Why Don’t I Fit In?

Something that’s become a theme lately in my practice is people having issues with fitting in.  It’s a common enough thing, we’ve all been through it in childhood, specifically in the teen years, and it echoes throughout our adult lives off and on. …

For All The Wrong Reasons

Romeo and JulietPeople say “Follow your heart.  It will never lead you astray.”  To which I respond with three words “Romeo & Juliet.”  Feeling drawn to do something, feeling that it is necessary to do right now, that it’s significant in some way is definitely something we should be giving our undivided attention. …

Influencing the Outcome

Our brains are more powerful than we realize in any given moment. They make decisions about what and isn’t reality, what will or won’t work, what is and isn’t possible, and, most especially, how things Have to get done in order to achieve some goal. …

There’s Beauty In The Balance

It can be a heady thing when we start walking our path, making choices to do what’s right, exploring what we are capable of.  It’s amazing to feel the happiness flow freely and things fall into place when we start doing what’s been in our heart all along. …

I’m Working On Gratitude

“I don’t know what else to do or what next step to take so I’m working on gratitude for…”  So many memes about gratitude out there, so little time.  And yet, I hear over and over from people who no matter how much they work on being grateful, it doesn’t resolve their issues, doesn’t unstick them from what is stuck, doesn’t make them feel any happier, doesn’t make them any more grateful for what they have or had…In fact, working on gratitude often makes them feel bad about themselves because they should feel grateful but they don’t and their issues don’t get resolved and they can’t love their lives and there must be something broken inside them and they are terrible people!!!!…

Getting The Same Result

People ask me “what am I doing wrong?” and “what’s the lesson in this because it keeps happening?” which is a good place to start in looking at any given issue.  And sometimes there is a lesson and sometimes there is something being done wrong, but not always. …

Giving ‘Til It Hurts

Each of us is a unique soul, a piece of the All That Is.  Yet the messaging we get from the world around us is that we need to do in order to be valued.  We are supposedly defined by our careers and our success in those careers, by our families and their happiness and/or successfulness, we must do constantly, give ’til it hurts, and once everyone around us agrees that we are a good person, then we can rest.…

Generic Answers to Generic Prayers

People want to know what the meaning of things are.  Why they happen, what they are supposed to learn from that, how they can get what they want or what’s best for them.  In the spiritual community it’s taught that everything happens for a reason and that there’s always a lesson to learn from the things that happen. …

Straight Line Fallacy

There’s nothing like learning a new language or working with a different culture to point out the cultural assumptions you’ve been taught.  I remember a conversation in my first year of college where two of my friends who were science and math majors were laughing about the straight line being the shortest distance between two points. …