The Alchemy In Doing

One of the hardest things to do is remember what you thought something was going to be like after you’ve experienced it.  It’s like the brain goes back and writes over that section, putting the memories of the experience over our expectations of what the experience would be. We can remember the fear, the excitement,…

That One Thing

People aren’t often truthful about what they want. Not that they are trying to mislead us for nefarious purposes, but usually they are either uncomfortable claiming the truth or they aren’t even sure what it is. Some people know what they want, but it to have it would require they make transformative changes in their…

Working From A Full Cup

We’re taught to get the work done first and then we can do what will make us happy.  You know, “Do your homework or you don’t get to go out and play.” It’s practical, it builds a good work ethic, it’s a virtue to be able to work hard and achieve, blah-blah-blah.  It’s true like…

Don’t Just Thank Them

I’m a sucker for the videos of soldiers surprising their kids as a welcome home and ads where people tell our military “thanks for your service” but that’s all well and good. But out of sight, out of mind and once I or they have walked past, once the holiday is over, they still deal…

And Then The Healing Begins

Naturally our primary focus in healing is to stop the bleeding. We need to find the cause for the self-defeating behavior, the inability to let things go even decades later, the damaging relationship patterns that inform every connection we try to make, the depression, self-sabotage, addictions, driven to the point of destruction issues that make…

Who Is The Lesson For?

While every situation holds something we can learn, not every one is a lesson meant for us. Yes, a long line can teach us patience, but the reason the line is long might not have anything to do with us, nor is our being in that line some kind of message. Sometimes its just a…

Triage is Not a Character Trait

There are a lot of people in the world defining themselves by what they do or do not do. They see their value in how much they get done, how much they do for others, how hard they work, and how many more mountains they have to plow through just to get to the weekend.…

The Center of an Unfolding Universe

Each of us is receiving universal wisdom in every moment.  Whether we are tuned into this channel, accepting of the information or not is another matter.  But it is there.  A percentage of my clients struggle because, for one reason or another, they are blocking the information or filtering it so they only perceive a…

Balancing

Somewhere along the way our notion of balance becomes about stillness.  That balance is about perfect measures bringing everything to a point where nothing moves. It’s the essence of perfection, to be perfectly balanced in a stillness that proves everything is exactly equal, measured, compared, in exacting relationship to each other. Yet nothing could be…