One of the most often asked questions presented to the Akashic records is “Why?”  Why did this happen?  Was it meant to happen?   Did I know it was going to happen?  What am I supposed to learn from this?  And there is a huge amount of emotional charge around this question because usually the issue that happened was not happy or pleasant or positive in the short or even long term.  So to turn outrage and hurt and despair around and make something positive about it the person wants to know why.  For me the question doesn’t start with why, it starts with who.

We tend to assume that when emotionally relevant things happen in our lives that involve individuals interacting with us, those events are connected with us and we are the main focus.  Concerts, speeches, vacations, corporate events, tv shows, workshops, movies, and conventions may move us emotionally for one reason or another, but we are usually aware that we are not the focus of the event and that the particulars are less conscious than synchronistic.  Individual events are directed and specific and like children of divorce we tend to think that they are about us and we may be responsible for them.  But as in the case of divorce, that may not be the truth of the matter.

So for these questions I look for the who.  Who is actually the focus of the events that unfolded.  Because my client may just be experiencing the side effects of the event.  If they are, then I can usually find the bones of the reason for the event in their soul book, see some of the motivations of the parties involved and explain why it happened when it happened. If necessary I can request further documents from the Akashics or ask for guides and teachers to come speak to me about the situation. If the client is not the main focus, knowing that can really help.  I can then start relating whether they knew and had agreed to participate in the event, what they agreed to do and what they were planning to get from the situation.  This kind of clarification can release from the stasis they were in, let their identity adjust, let the story they are weaving that is who they are include a new perspective of events and adjust the chapter accordingly.  It’s amazing what not being responsible for something can do for a person. It’s freeing!

However, there are times when the client is the focus of the story.  But not how they think they are.  They may have lost a parent in early childhood and feel abandoned and forever searching for something that will never be there.  But the why of the situation is that the parent needed to leave early for their own reasons and this was preplanned. And the client agreed to this knowing that they only needed a short time in order to receive all the love and guidance and role modelling they would need in order to be a terrific parent themselves.  In fact, this process would cause them to become stronger, more active, more authentic as a person and as a parent than they would have been otherwise.  So it’s not about loss, it’s about so much more gained.  Just looking at the other side of the coin can give someone’s identity a new lease on life and knowing that the event wasn’t about them can help them let go of unnecessary burden.

Wanting to know why is so very important, but so is knowing who.  Who is this really about,  who is the lesson for (if there is one), and who is responsible for the situation.  Why unfolds much more clearly once you know who.