Before we are born we work out a plan, a sketch or outline, of what we want to do while we are here. Which seems straight forward but is very intricate and complicated due to the fact that we are not islands operating outside any influence and all of us have free will. Our plans include not only our actions, but agreements or contracts with others. We agree to be a child to our parents, a sibling to our siblings…or not….to meet people for various purposes, to have relationships, to be friends, to teach, to learn, to grow and agonize and radiate with joy. We write it all down in pencil, as it were, knowing that it’s all fluid because the process of living is a symphony of choice and chance in each moment.
Because of this, relationship contracts look almost opposite to a legal contract as we write them today. Contracts in the physical are actionable documents that state what both parties will and must do and the penalties and actions to be taken if these things are not done. Relationship contracts are if/then statements stating that if one party is in the right place at the right time in the right state of being and if the other party is also in the right place at the right time in the right state of being, then this stated thing will be entered into such as a friendship or a business partnership etc, etc. In physical contracts the parties sign to formalize the agreement and guarantee the actions described. In a relationship contract the document isn’t signed until all the actions are complete and the deal is finished. As it may never occur and there is no guarantee that it will occur there is no need to sign it. It stands waiting for the actions to occur and if they don’t then it is never actuated and becomes null and void.
Because of free will, because of choice and of chance, even if you really want a contract to be fulfilled or you feel that this one person is your soul mate, the relationship may never happen. You agree to be there for someone and they agree to be there for you, but if there are lessons to be learned before you are ready for the relationship, if there is healing to be done or actions to be taken and they don’t occur, then you may not be able to make the contract happen. And the same can be said for them. This happens all the time and is not some romantic tragedy, but the magic of life. It happens even after all the planning and just as many miracles happen as failed connections. So be open to the possibilities and don’t get stuck on the details. Just because this one thing didn’t work out doesn’t mean you won’t have a chance to make the connection again. And it doesn’t mean that this wasn’t a step to making the next connection. Be open to the possibilities because that, most definitely, is something you wrote into your plan.