In Brene Brown’s research she’s found these 10 things which are the key factors to living a wholehearted life.  I struggle with at least half of them every single day.  *sigh* What’s interesting to me is that when people talk about these things they see the first half as a goal they wish to achieve but come up blank on the how.  When they look at the second half they don’t see it as a how, but as a flaw in their core makeup and impossible to overcome.

So if the answer is part of our identity and impossible to heal, then how can we ever live wholeheartedly?  The answer is to realize that our core is actually perfect not irrevocably broken, these things are not insurmountable, and we unlearn them and unbecome them the same way we got here, one step at a time, one day at a time.

1. Cultivating Authenticity (Letting go of what other people think)
2. Cultivating Self-Compassion (Letting Go of Perfectionism)
3. Cultivating a Resilient Spirit (Letting Go of Numbing and Powerlessness)
4. Cultivating Gratitude and Joy (Letting go of scarcity and fear of the dark)
5. Cultivating Intuition and Trusting Faith (Letting go of the need for certainty)
6. Cultivating Creativity (Letting go of comparison)
7. Cultivating Play and Rest (Letting go of exhaustion as a status symbol and productivity as self-worth)
8. Cultivating Calm and Stillness (Letting go of anxiety as a lifestyle)
9. Cultivating Meaningful Work (Letting go of self-doubt and “supposed to”)
10. Cultivating Laughter, Song, and Dance (Letting go of being cool and “always in control”)