Don’t Just Thank Them

I’m a sucker for the videos of soldiers surprising their kids as a welcome home and ads where people tell our military “thanks for your service” but that’s all well and good. But out of sight, out of mind and once I or they have walked past, once the holiday is over, they still deal…

And Then The Healing Begins

Naturally our primary focus in healing is to stop the bleeding. We need to find the cause for the self-defeating behavior, the inability to let things go even decades later, the damaging relationship patterns that inform every connection we try to make, the depression, self-sabotage, addictions, driven to the point of destruction issues that make…

Who Is The Lesson For?

While every situation holds something we can learn, not every one is a lesson meant for us. Yes, a long line can teach us patience, but the reason the line is long might not have anything to do with us, nor is our being in that line some kind of message. Sometimes its just a…

Triage is Not a Character Trait

There are a lot of people in the world defining themselves by what they do or do not do. They see their value in how much they get done, how much they do for others, how hard they work, and how many more mountains they have to plow through just to get to the weekend.…

The Center of an Unfolding Universe

Each of us is receiving universal wisdom in every moment.  Whether we are tuned into this channel, accepting of the information or not is another matter.  But it is there.  A percentage of my clients struggle because, for one reason or another, they are blocking the information or filtering it so they only perceive a…

Balancing

Somewhere along the way our notion of balance becomes about stillness.  That balance is about perfect measures bringing everything to a point where nothing moves. It’s the essence of perfection, to be perfectly balanced in a stillness that proves everything is exactly equal, measured, compared, in exacting relationship to each other. Yet nothing could be…

There’s Truth and then There’s Fact

It can be very confusing when people’s actions say one thing and their words say another. They say that they want to work things out, but they take no steps to work through anything. They say they are putting everything they have into the relationship, but each day there is less and less relationship there…

Ending the Cycle

There comes a point where the stories are worn thin, then justifications are no longer talismans, and the words are ashes in your mouth. There comes a point where there is nothing left but you. What happened when you were a child happened.  Whether it’s been validated or not, it’s your truth now that no…