Trust Is Earned

When people trust without learning whether the person or situation is trust worthy, we call them naïve or overly trusting and we see it as a negative. Trust must be earned through action. Our brains know this implicitly and yet expect that things will work exactly the opposite when it comes to our bodies. Our…

What If You Indulged

What would happen if you indulged in something you really want to do.  Not something that could lead to a profession, something that furthers your spiritual growth, that could lead you to your dream life, but something you really want right now. I know, it’s not possible because of everything else that has to get…

Allowing Help

It’s a vulnerable thing, to want help. Needing help is vulnerable but usually the necessity out weighs the concerns. Being in a place where help would be positive, where help would make things better, but where it isn’t actually, drastically needed, calls on us to interconnect. It calls on us to be in that awkward…

Who They Truly Are

Sometimes people see what they want to see and sometimes they only pay attention to what they are shown. Often times it’s six of one and 1/2 dozen of the other. In any combination it can seem as if the person we thought we knew has disappeared. This is true in all kinds of relationships…

Declarative Statements

A trap that people fall into is being engaged in what seems like a conversation. Once in it they realize they are in a now win situation because they are being asked to defend an action, a state of being, a decision and no answer they give will ever be right, good enough, or even…

I Want To Be Sure

You know that question that’s running around on social media: “What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?” It’s meant to get you to let go of your fear for a moment, let your right brain have a couple of seconds to unfold some of the low hanging fruit of things you want…

The Need For Play

We forget that the counter balance for work isn’t self-care, that’s often maintenance and triaging damage, but play. The type of play which has no goals, needs little planning, and fills us with delight. Like stopping at your favorite hobby shop just because, wearing Gothic skull head tennis shoes to walk to work, keeping a…

Choosing to Enter the Cave

From Inanna: Queen of Heaven by Diane Wolkstein My Lady abandoned heaven and earth to descend to the underworld. Inanna abandoned heaven and earth to descend to the underworld. She abandoned her office of holy priestess to descend to the underworld… When Inanna arrived at the outer gates of the underworld, She knocked loudly. She…