Beltane

So it’s the first of May (There’s a great song about that by Jonathan Coulton that is NSFW but you can look it up on Youtube). For me, I’m reveling in the culmination of 5 years work to create a backyard oasis.  The pink rose that the developers managed not to destroy has become a…

What If I Don’t Know What I Know?

“The only think I know for certain is that I could be wrong.” – Martha Beck I sometimes have clients that are just sure they know a thing about themselves, about how they work in the world, about the meaning of something that happens to them time and again, and about who they are because…

Strategy for Story Fondlers

by Martha Beck: Steering by Starlight: The Science and Magic of Finding Your Destiny “Story fondlers are chockablock full of disappointment and anger about the bad things that are present in their lives and the good things that are absent. By talking about this constantly, they get help and sympathy from others. This affords them…

Love Production

There’s a difference between experiencing love for someone and making love a product that you direct at that person.  Loving someone should be a nurturing, nourishing thing because it is a feeling within you that is complete.  It’s like a complete sentence in and of itself.  The love you feel for your child, for your…

Willpower?

Willpower is an amazing thing to have. It helps us get through situations where the high road isn’t what we want to take, but we know it’s for the best so we exert to align everything in us to make that happen.  Willpower is usually a skill of the mind as in mind over matter,…

Ambient Conversations

Most people think of conversations as what we say. They think that what they express is through words, through speaking, through talking it out.  There’s the printed word as well.  Words on the screen, on the page, on the wall.  Meaning comes through saying what we mean and meaning what we say.  Whether we’re talking…

Permission

In spiritual and therapeutic circles we talk about “giving permission.” We give ourselves permission to do this or that, be this or that. We give other’s permission to be or do this thing or the other.  We release unnecessary boundaries that are holding us back from being authentic and fully experiencing all we can be…

Vulnerable Truth

When people talk about being vulnerable, they are usually referring to a situation where they were seen by other people.  Whether that was on purpose like giving a presentation or not like not knowing your fly is down or your skirt is tucked up in back, these moments expose us…ahem… to others.  We are without…

Too Too

Life can get out of balance even if we’re leaning in the right direction.  You know, too much of a good thing and alla that.  We can get too open to whatever happens and miss out on the sign posts pointing us towards the amazing next steps awaiting us.  Yes, life is rich and full…

Wholehearted Living

In Brene Brown’s research she’s found these 10 things which are the key factors to living a wholehearted life.  I struggle with at least half of them every single day.  *sigh* What’s interesting to me is that when people talk about these things they see the first half as a goal they wish to achieve…