In our minds we create an image of who we are and who we can and will be. And that image includes all the bad as well as the good and, in most cases, includes some pretty rigid rules. We can figure out what the rules are pretty through a simple exercise: Take a piece…
Have you noticed that when you are really into doing something, you can forget time altogether, not feel hungry, and when you’re done you still feel great? And when you are bored or unhappy or feeling stuck all you can think about is food? Feeding ourselves is not just about our bodies, in fact many…
Have you noticed that we tend to remember the bad things and take our emotional queue from them? Why not choose today to pay attention to the good things that happen. Make a list of good things that happen, small or large or both, and at the end of the day, read through it. How…
A friend of mine was at my house and we were talking clothes. Yep, I’m female and sometimes I’m a cliché. 🙂 But I was stunned when she turned to me and said “Your life is so much fun. Look at all of this!”. Now, I enjoy my life, don’t get me wrong, but the…
Society so applauds competition that it creates competitive concepts within itself. It makes additive behavior seem and feel like a reward and makes rewards look like self-indulgent behavior. It makes self-sacrifice and hard work for others seem virtuous even, or specifically, when it is damaging to you and makes it feel like doing anything for…
Have you ever wanted something but felt overwhelmed by how much work it would take to get it? Has it felt impossible to get from there to here? That’s common. We are, after all, only one person living in one moment at a time and most things that we want require a lot of moments…
So if you were to dream big, what would that look like? Would it be a new to you car? A new car? Would it be that new dress you have wanted for a while even through you have nowhere to wear it? Would it be to travel somewhere you’ve never been for long enough…
We tend to talk and think in extremes. Either we look at things as impossible and so limit the scope of whatever we might choose to make it ‘manageable’ and ‘see if anything comes of it’ or we know its impossible and so we think of the biggest, over the top variation of what we…
Everyone has trust issues. We are taught from a very young age not to trust ourselves. Parenting has become about scheduling, activities, ‘getting it right’ so that futures are bright, and having all the right things. So many times I’ve seen babies so immersed in toys and objects that they cry just from the over…
It’s not the addictive substances or activities we use to medicate the pain away. It’s the things that we’ve been taught don’t matter – sitting in the sunlight, crafting for no other purpose than just because you feel like it, going for a walk somewhere you’ve never been. Why do those things if there’s no…