Parents are human beings. Most adults realize that at some point. Usually it comes to us in our 30’s, although life circumstances might bring that point home much earlier, for better or worse. Parents have their own perspectives, their own histories, their own baggage, their own hopes and dreams and aspirations. All of which inform…
I know it may be mind boggling, but relationships require relating. Which means actually paying attention to the other person. Not stalking, not clinging, not co-dependenting, but actually paying attention to them. Listening to what they are saying and actually hearing them. Talking to them, not at them, and inviting them into your life, not…
Due to language constructs and concepts and how our brains create meaning of our experiences of the world around us, we tend to talk and even think in black and white extremist symbols. We use words like ‘everything’, ‘nothing’, ‘always’, ‘never’ as if they actually exist while at the same time we can cite a…
A client came to me with a question about something a psychic had told them. They said the information came from the Akashics and so it must be true, but it didn’t seem true, didn’t match the reality of the situation, and just plain ole didn’t make sense. So they wanted to know what I…
Part of the meaning and structure we make from the input we get is informed by our experiences. From the time we are born we are gathering data and spinning a life out of it. And this is a good thing otherwise our life would become a weird and very painful version of Ground Hog’s…
When we talk about things, a lot of times we talk in black and white examples, in extremes, using these as symbols for the concepts we are trying to convey. Like all politicians are corrupt and all aid organizations are altruistic and successful and all scientists are single-minded and socially inept. These are generalizations and…
I have a strongly negative reaction to the terms ‘shaman’ and ‘shamanism’ as do most Native Americans. And there are several reasons for that. The most general is that almost 100% of people who are claiming to be shamans are just trying to get money from people. They may or may not have any gifts…
A common question I get asked by clients is “Why did X period of my life have to happen?” It’s usually something that took 5/10/20 years, seems from the perspective of cultural norms to have been a failure to achieve the standard goal, and to have nothing to do with the current phase of life…
Clients, friends and family come to me to talk about their dreams. I’ve worked with them extensively for decades and while each dream is unique to the dreamer, I usually can provide some insight that they might not have come to on their own or point them in the right direction to get the most…
There are all types of knowing that people can and do experience, some valued more than others and some discounted all together. Muscle memory allows your body to know an action or a process through repetition so the brain doesn’t have to focus on performing that action. Muscle knowing helps you know how best to…