The Achievement Engine

We are taught to be productive.  Most of us will learn to do this for others, fulfilling tasks set for us by employers, but also for groups and family because that’s what’s expected of us.  We’ll take on the roles and the jobs and the masks that people have told us to and will become…

Depression – What Can I Do?

Often we feel helpless in the face of someone’s depression.  We don’t know to do or what we can do.  Many times people are well meaning but make things worse by trying to “help” the person look on the bright side, which invalidates their feelings and can just make them feel worse.  Being told it’s…

Filling the Parental Void

It can seem like we’re the only one who had a parent or parents who were unable to parent us adequately.  Even more so if there was abuse or neglect or dysfunction involved.  Unfortunately this is not an unusual occurrence and so there are large numbers of us trying to heal wounds left from childhoods…

Going Back Home

There’s that phrase “You can never go home again” which I wish were true.  I mean, yeah, if we’re talking about making things go back to the way they were or feeling the way you felt about something, then I agree.  Life is about change and nothing is going to go back to the way…

It’s Someday

You know that someday when you’re going to do what you want for a change?  That someday when you’re going to get rid of all this shit?  The someday when you’re going to stop having to deal with all of this baggage you’ve carried around since you were a kid? You know that someday when…

What Are You Worth?

Our actions speak volumes about what we value and how we value it.  Yes, if we sit down and think about the people, roles, responsibilities, and goals in our lives, we can come up with a priority list that ranks these things and we can probably talk about them in a meaningful way.  But if…

Akashic Reading Coupon

The end of summer (or winter depending on the hemisphere) is close upon us.  Before we switch into active mode and things start propelling us forward on our path, it’s handy to know what our options are, what our path should be, whether we’re on it, and what we can do to help achieve our…

Words and Meaning

People sometimes get confused in relationships because the words and the actions don’t match or they seem not to match because people aren’t paying attention to the actual meaning of the words.  Anyone who has had a conversation has experienced a few difficulties including multiple meanings of a word causing confusion for both parties, sometimes…

Way Back When…

Most people don’t realize my religious studies include the Bible.  I mean, if you’re into “alternative” spiritualities you must be anti-Christian and uninformed, right?  *sigh*  Actually, I’m somewhat of a Biblical scholar and a theologian, went to a Catholic college for my undergrad degree.  Oh, that degree, a BA in English Lit which means I…

Need Goggles

Some people wear fear goggles or put on beer goggles…one of these is more fun than the other but both do the same thing, they skew what the person sees and how they interpret what they are seeing.  Beer goggles make everything funnier, people prettier, and the person wearing them seem more intelligent and the…