Know When to Fold ‘Em

Sometimes it’s hard to know when to quit.  We’re told that quitting it bad, that only losers quit, that with hard work and determination we can reach that goal, that everything we want is out there if we don’t give up….blah, blah, blah.  What we aren’t told is that sometimes the best thing to do…

Understanding vs. Agreement

It is common for people to use the word understand as a replacement for agree.  Understanding is a word that has developed a flexibility that allows politicians, public figures, and long suffering family members forced together at the holidays to get away with intricate dance of avoiding agreement with someone or something, curtailing further discussion,…

Health as Judgement

Our bodies are not meat cars we’re driving around in, they are integral to our embodied life and therefore interrelated to our soul, our emotions, and our minds.  They don’t fight against our best life, they work to help us achieve it.  This doesn’t mean they become Jesus and carry us so there is only…

Drop That Baggage

Easier said than done.  As adults we pick up or accept baggage through all kinds of relationships.  Friends, co-workers, management, groups and associations, hell even the book club can be a mine field of baggage just waiting for us to claim it.  But as adults we can figure that out, work through it, get rid…

How To Deal With Grief

Stop. When you come into contact with grief, stop.  Stop whatever you are doing, stop the chatter inside your head, stop the automatic pilot that is guiding you through your day.  Just stop. Once you’ve stopped, direct your attention to the source of the grief.  To the husband trying valiantly to hold his family together…

Actions Vs. Actions

“Actions speak louder than words.”  At some point in our lives we’ve all heard this.  It comes up in all kinds of contexts.   It shows up most pointedly in politics but it’s a common place issue between people who have authority and/or power and those who are affected by authority and/or power.  Because it’s not…

Honoring Veterans

My people have been warriors since our first memory of existence.  Because of this we have an understanding of what it does not only to the person, but to the community when a warrior goes into battle.  Being a warrior is a sacrifice. It means not only leaving behind everyone and everything you care about,…

Follow Your Heart

Ever experience a time when you’re doing something and you realize you’ve forgotten about time all together? Have you found you have a smile on your face that’s been there for a while now and you are just totally enthralled in what you are doing?  That’s how I define ‘joy’.  Most people think of ‘joy’…

It’s In How You Say It

“Speak your truth” isn’t a new concept.  It’s ancient, but it became popular in the 60’s and 70’s and now is so common that it’s almost too trite for a FaceBook meme.  It’s become so trite that it almost has no meaning.  Everyone things they know what that means and yet we seem to mean…