Follow Your Curiosity

Too many times we over think things, wanting to know where this is leading us, what we can do with it, what it all means, and where we’ll go next. It’s about feeling safe and in control. If we can see the cause and effect of things then we feel competent to make something out…

Reach Out, Pull Through, Then Ground

Most spiritualities teach that we should either center and then reach out or center, reach out, ground, then notice what remains. Some teach that we can add pulling through so: center, reach out, pull through, ground, look at what you ended up with. All of which is good and I teach variations of this as…

Goose In a Bottle

I see a large number of people with Goose and Bottle problems.  They go around showing everyone the green bottle with the gosling in it and bewail the fact that the bottle is too priceless to break and the goose lays golden eggs and so can’t be harmed, but it can’t get out of the…

Make Your Own Way

People sometimes get stuck trying to follow all the wisdom imparted by experts, supposed experts and those who are already working the way we want to work. They don’t want to fail, want to avoid the common mistakes and truly understand the best way of doing something, so they gather all of these opinions and…

Talking Ain’t Doin’

One of the greatest gifts we can give to someone we love is our attention. It’s something we can sometimes struggle with when we’ve been connected with someone for a long time. We get habituated to them and stop treating them as a mystery to be explored. Instead we can come to see them as…

The Dependability Bargain

In most cases being dependable is a good thing.  Being consistently what you’re supposed to be, the way you’re supposed to be it, doing the things you say you’ll do, these are all really great things in a world of constant change. Of course, I tend to point out that dependability cuts both ways because…

Make It Your Own

I’ve always liked the fact that for Catholics they identify by how they practice vs what they believe. There is the lapsed Catholic, the submarine Catholics who only surface twice a year (Christmas and Easter), and the Cafeteria crowd who pick and choose. There is the strict line of the Church and how things should…

Buying Relationship

Something we applaud in ourselves and in others is the willingness to do for others. Always being there when people need us, always willing to lend a hand, give advice, or just pitch in even without being asked. This is the kind of person that we think of as wholesome, good, and perfect. However, it…