Set The Bar Low

Sometimes we make things waaaaaayyy too hard when they don’t need to be.  We set expectations for ourselves that are out of proportion or get all perfectionist when life is anything but.  So then we have to work twice as hard to get over our fear our anxiety just to do the thing or achieve the goal if we even try at all. …

Symbol Factory

Christmas is an amazing time for symbols.  It’s a symbol factory!  Better than dream time because the symbols aren’t something running around in our head at night, but things which everyone can see and interact with.  I’ve thought about creating a called “Claim that Christmas Symbol” but it seems that people are already playing it without there being any formal rules. …

What Christmas to Have

Part of the joy of the Christmas season is deciding what type of Christmas to have.  Are we staying home this year, going to visit relatives we haven’t seen for a while, going to your mom’s or mine or both?  Some people make a circuit because there are multiple family gatherings on both sides and so the entire day is a trip around the world to make sure that everyone is connected and no one feels slighted or left out.…

Gift Giving Secrets

Don’t give what you want, give what they want.  I know, it seems obvious and really simple, but for some it’s a mystery, which is why Christmas, birthdays, and Valentine’s Day are fraught when it comes to the gifts.  How do people get it so wrong so very often? …

Resting and Rejuvenating

We tend to think about resting and rejuvenating as going hand in hand.  Mostly because we think that our lack of juve is from being tired so if we get some rest we’ll rejuvenate.  Not always the case, however.  Tiredness or exhaustion can result from many different things and so the resolution for it is not one size fits all. …

Hustle And Bustle

Christmas has turned into a very goal oriented holiday over the years.  Months in advance manufacturers and advertisers and retail stores and all types of businesses associated with the holidays work to be prepared for the season.  Then people start gearing up for the season. …

Real and Not Real

People like to point out the harsh realities.  Not because anyone is missing them or misunderstanding them, but because somehow they are more real than less harsh realities and therefore have more weight and need more recognition.  Now anyone who knows me will point out that I’m no Pollyanna. …

Nelson Mandela

People will say things better than I ever could about the man and about his mythology.  What I can do is point you in their direction. The world is putting aside all the squabbling and the finger pointing for one day.…

Parental Perspective

At some point in our lives we come to realize that our parents are human beings.  Hopefully…If you haven’t yet…well…sorry.  I hate to point out the facts about Santa.  And don’t anyone tell the people at NORAD.  They think they’re tracking his progress each year. …

Holiday Choices Part 1

At various times in my life I have had the opportunity to create holidays from scratch.  Not invent holidays, but create the holiday experience from the ground up.  In college I couldn’t afford to fly home for Thanksgiving so I caught up with some of my fellow students and we would create Thanksgiving for ourselves. …