Fear is worse than the reality

We are the most creative beings ever.  We create alternate worlds in our own minds where things happen, people interact, and the world turns completely differently from our experience in our bodies.  Which is an amazing tool for spinning dreams and creating goals, for surviving terrifying and abusive or even deadly situations, and for making the most boring situation just a little bit brighter. …

Don’t just do something, stand there.

So the common quote is “Don’t just stand there, do something.”  Which has a lot of merit.  If you haven’t taken any steps to get what you want in life or something is chronic and you’ve been complaining about it for a long time, do something, anything, interpretive dance, for goodness sake, and things will change.…

Soul Challenges

In working with clients I spend quite a bit of time helping them unlearn the logic that the world has taught them.  You know, the stuff everyone knows, the common wisdom you learn from school, the things the media drums into our head, etc, etc. …

Change

No, not the stuff in your pocket or at the bottom of your purse.  And not the “change your life today or else” speech or the “you will survive this catastrophic event” speech.  I think there’s enough of those around to fill the Library of Congress, thank you very much. …

Getting what you really want

It seems so simple.  Want a thing, work for the thing, and eventually get the thing, then move on to the next thing.  I mean it can be as simple as “Wow, Cheetos!” and you grab them in the store, pay for them, and you are happily munching an amazingly tasty not-really food product.…

Being in your own way

Most people lead what Plato called ‘the unexamined life’, which to him was one of the greatest sins of all time.  It’s natural for us to get deeply involved in the day-to-day of our lives, more so if what we are doing is highly relevant to our perceived survival such as buying a house, getting married/divorced, moving to a different country, starting a new job. …

Values and Money

In a consumer culture the main complaint people voice is about money.  Not having enough of it, owing too much of it, not having it when you want it, others not giving it where they need to, too many people asking for it, people not using it ‘wisely’, money management, saving for a rainy day, spending it all because you can, etc, etc, etc. …

New Moon

In the Cherokee tradition we honor both the full moon and the new moon as cycles and see them as balancing each other.  The full moon is seen as feminine, as bringing forth the fruits of all our work and actions and thoughts throughout that particular cycle.…

“No” is a complete sentence

There is a very clear line between attempting to convince someone of something and coercion.  They may seem similar, but your body know immediately when the line has been crossed.  Trying to convince somebody comes from desire.  You really want something and that emotion fills you and you want this person to agree and want it to. …