Depth Perception

There is comfort in knowing who we are, where we’re headed, and what the path ahead holds for us.  I’m all for it.  Well, with one caveat.  We can’t know what we don’t know so we can only know who were are in this moment and who we have been. …

Check Before You Act

This is one of the loudest seasons of the year.  Besides the bellowing of advertising, the adnauseum caroling and the inner voice adding this/that/the other thing to an escalating to do list there’s all the events and the cards and the phone calls and the emails. …

The Power In Let

The word “let” is connected with issues of power and control.  The easiest way to recognize this is to remember when as a child you explained to others that your parents let you do this and wouldn’t let you do that. …

2 Separate Lives

Privacy and hidden identities are something we deal with more and more in our daily lives.  They used to be the stuff of super heroes with Batman’s mask and Clark Kent’s glasses.  Now we have the Arrow, Arsenal, the Canary, the Flash weekly. …

Making It Your Own

One of my fondest memories of Thanksgiving is the one I spent my senior year of college.  A group of us had exactly no money to fly back home for the holiday, but two of us had apartments in the same complex so we decided to put together our own celebration.…

Dysfunctional Family Rules

Ever notice that when you go back home for a visit you fall into old patterns?  Seen your sweetheart become a teenager again as soon as they hit the door to their parent’s place?  The longer we live our own lives, healing dysfunctional patterns and creating balance and wholeness the more jarring it is to come back into contact with the old patterns. …

Anything Other Than That

It’s like trying to feed a kid their medicine.  It’s the one thing that will make them feel better, it’s even flavored for gawd sake, but its the last thing they want and you have to wrestle them down and hold them like a cat trying to get this stuff far enough down ’em that they can’t spit it out. …