Wisdom

And Then The Healing Begins

Naturally our primary focus in healing is to stop the bleeding. We need to find the cause for the self-defeating behavior, the inability to let things go even decades later, the damaging relationship patterns that inform every connection we try to make, the depression, self-sabotage, addictions, driven to the point of destruction issues that make our lives survivable but hardly livable. …Details

Who Is The Lesson For?

While every situation holds something we can learn, not every one is a lesson meant for us. Yes, a long line can teach us patience, but the reason the line is long might not have anything to do with us, nor is our being in that line some kind of message.…Details

Triage is Not a Character Trait

There are a lot of people in the world defining themselves by what they do or do not do. They see their value in how much they get done, how much they do for others, how hard they work, and how many more mountains they have to plow through just to get to the weekend.…Details

The Center of an Unfolding Universe

Each of us is receiving universal wisdom in every moment.  Whether we are tuned into this channel, accepting of the information or not is another matter.  But it is there.  A percentage of my clients struggle because, for one reason or another, they are blocking the information or filtering it so they only perceive a small trickle. …Details

Balancing

Somewhere along the way our notion of balance becomes about stillness.  That balance is about perfect measures bringing everything to a point where nothing moves. It’s the essence of perfection, to be perfectly balanced in a stillness that proves everything is exactly equal, measured, compared, in exacting relationship to each other.…Details

There’s Truth and then There’s Fact

It can be very confusing when people’s actions say one thing and their words say another. They say that they want to work things out, but they take no steps to work through anything. They say they are putting everything they have into the relationship, but each day there is less and less relationship there and it seems like only one person is making any effort.…Details

Ending the Cycle

There comes a point where the stories are worn thin, then justifications are no longer talismans, and the words are ashes in your mouth. There comes a point where there is nothing left but you. What happened when you were a child happened. …Details

Hang On

Sometimes the best we can do is just hang on. Instead of a beautiful even braid of intention and action, healing and boundaries what you get is a tangled ball of old behaviors and new, old boundaries and new which are so inextricably knotted it can seem impossible to separate them.…Details