The Undertow

undertow-smallIt’s something you have to deal with when you’re around moving water. Something you can’t see. You want to swim, the water looks inviting, when you get it it’s the right temperature and everything is flowing and then, whoosh, you are dragged under, disoriented, going in an unknown direction, and leaving everything you were and you had planned far behind.…Details

Trust Is Earned

Stone-TrustWhen people trust without learning whether the person or situation is trust worthy, we call them naïve or overly trusting and we see it as a negative. Trust must be earned through action. Our brains know this implicitly and yet expect that things will work exactly the opposite when it comes to our bodies.…Details

Allowing Help

Head BumpIt’s a vulnerable thing, to want help. Needing help is vulnerable but usually the necessity out weighs the concerns. Being in a place where help would be positive, where help would make things better, but where it isn’t actually, drastically needed, calls on us to interconnect.…Details

Who They Truly Are

Sometimes people see what they want to see and sometimes they only pay attention to what they are shown. Often times it’s six of one and 1/2 dozen of the other. In any combination it can seem as if the person we thought we knew has disappeared.…Details

Declarative Statements

It's a trapA trap that people fall into is being engaged in what seems like a conversation. Once in it they realize they are in a now win situation because they are being asked to defend an action, a state of being, a decision and no answer they give will ever be right, good enough, or even satisfactory.…Details

I Want To Be Sure

Purple RainYou know that question that’s running around on social media: “What would you do if you knew you couldn’t fail?” It’s meant to get you to let go of your fear for a moment, let your right brain have a couple of seconds to unfold some of the low hanging fruit of things you want to do/be/accomplish, and then let reality snap back into focus.…Details

The Need For Play

Star_trek_shorve_leave_2_smallWe forget that the counter balance for work isn’t self-care, that’s often maintenance and triaging damage, but play. The type of play which has no goals, needs little planning, and fills us with delight. Like stopping at your favorite hobby shop just because, wearing Gothic skull head tennis shoes to walk to work, keeping a toy unicorn in your purse, or taking a Magic 8-ball into meetings because it’s answers will be just as useful as some from the department heads and it will break up tension in an otherwise deadly meeting of death by a thousand Power Points.…Details