Trauma and Empathy

It’s part of our hard wiring to feel empathy for others pain. Mirror neurons fire within us when we see someone else do or feel something.  It’s why laughter is infectious, why we get the shivers when we see someone else get a scalp massage, get hungry when we’re watching others eat food, etc.… Details

To Those Who Have Lost

My thoughts and prayers are with those who have lost loved ones in Paris today. Their shock, grief and loss is not a political statement, although it will be used in that way.  Their lives are not the raw material of symbols although they will be co-opted for that purpose.… Details

Broken Trust

Healing is a multistage process not matter what kind it is. Usually we can group the stages into two main phases: triage and recovery.  Triage is when we or others stop what is happening from going any further and then start the repair of the damage. … Details

How To Deal With Fear

I sometimes wonder what our culture would look like if we didn’t have the heroic ideal as the role model for how we should deal with problems or fears.  If we didn’t have all the rhetoric around standing your ground, facing your fears head on, working through the pain, going on no matter what the cost, what would our lives look like? … Details

The Body Remembers

The body has a knowing.  One way we experience this is through muscle memory which we experience through two general categories. The most commonly discussed is that used by athletes, dancers, performers, and martial artists which is gained through repetition of an action or set of actions. … Details

Tilting At Passions

DonkeyPeople say they don’t know what they are passionate about, but that’s not really so.  If you scratch the surface you’ll find they are passionate about a whole lot of things on the plus and minus side. If they weren’t they wouldn’t have that rule about not discussing politics or religion with most anyone and especially not at the dinner table, if they still eat meals with other people.… Details