Something we learn about as we mature is that, even with the best of intentions, some actions have unintended consequences. Some things affect people in dramatic ways even though that’s what we were trying to avoid or that’s the last thing we would do, etc, etc, etc. We learn to try and think about all…
DetailsOne of the biggest blocks to setting boundaries with people is that we don’t want to get into a discussion about “Why?” Many times the whole point of the boundary is to limit certain interactions, but setting the boundary provokes the interaction we don’t want to have. What’s worse is the “Why?” questions around things…
DetailsLots of people feel that they are chained to their responsibilities. They can’t do this because of work. They can’t do that because of their family. They can’t do the other because of their pets needs. They put so much of themselves into their responsibilities and then feel depleted and frustrated and bleak because they…
DetailsWe are all spiritual beings living an embodied life. These bodies that we are in are neither a natural form for us to exist in nor a symbolic emanation of our spiritual selves. They are not a meat suit we are wearing over our true selves nor are they meat cars we are driving around…
DetailsWhen we think about setting a new bottom line we think about it in context of having a ‘discussion’ with someone. We are “drawing a line in the sand”, “taking a stand”, or clarifying our boundaries, perhaps for the first time. It’s usually because we feel that they’ve been violated by someone and we need…
DetailsToo much of anything is usually a bad thing and everything can be taken out of context and therefore make a hash of things. Being overly flexible can be a liability. It can leave you twisted into shapes you aren’t meant to be in or make you into a doormat for others instead of leading…
DetailsSometimes the logical way to do things, the prioritized, makes everything make sense, gets it all done method of life just doesn’t cut it. Sometimes we just have to do things in our own order, in a way that feels right vs. making sense. We may not have words for why, it’s just the way…
DetailsPeople confuse blame and responsibility all the time. Blame is what we use when we are emotionally charged about something. It’s the word that comes to mind when we are angry or hurt or aggrieved over something. We want something done about the situation. We want our feelings to change. We want things to move…
DetailsPeople don’t give themselves enough credit. They focus on themselves, listening to their inner guidance, pay attention to their conscience, take action to bring their lives into harmony with all that, start moving towards making their dreams a reality and then they ask, “So, you think I’m on the right track? Is this what I’m…
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