Being good in a crisis is a great life skill. Thinking clearly, doing what needs to get done, being flexible in the moment and getting things back on course can mean the difference between life and death or survival vs. utter destruction. Some people have these skills naturally, some work to make themselves experts in…
DetailsThere are so many examples in life of why it’s not a good idea to try to create something new in the remains of something old. You don’t cook in a pot you haven’t cleaned first. Um, yuck. You don’t bring your new sweetheart into your home until you’ve removed all the evidence of the…
DetailsToday in the United States we celebrate Veterans Day as a national holiday. This has all the positives and draw backs of any other national holiday. Most people have no real vested interest in it other than it’s a day off from work and it sucks the banks and post office are closed. For some…
DetailsI’m all about choosing yes. At some point we have to decide that we’re going to do what we’re here to do, we’re going to reach out for the life we want, we’re going to be happy and we’re going to try to make that happen even if what we choose to do is wrong…
DetailsThere’s a weird Catch 22 that people get into because they want things to change, but they are unwilling to release the death grip they have on them so the change can’t occur. When prompted they will tell you they are afraid of the unknown and if they could just know what would happen, then…
DetailsWe’re taught to think things through logically, make a plan, implement the plan in a logical manner, and good things will result. You may even achieve your goal. Yay! But what if the goal is to know what is best for you? What if the goal is to know what you want? Those goals and…
DetailsThere are people that we enjoy. We enjoy doing things with them, we enjoy having them around, and it’s ok when they go as well. Like migratory birds we know they will be back again or we will join them and so there’s no angst, not worry, no regrets and no drive to do this…
DetailsThe holidays can be a treacherous time for those who are actively creating a life that matches who they are becoming. These days are full of traditions and expectations, triggers and old behaviors, past acts and regrets, and people. There are people we want to see because we love them, but we wince thinking about…
DetailsWhen a pattern repeats in your life, it’s a good idea to examine that pattern. There’s something there for you to learn. But once the learning is done does the pattern automatically stop? No. That’s the conventional wisdom on the matter. That once you’ve learned the lesson you no longer need the pattern and so…
DetailsThere are a lot of reasons why people make art. One of them is to have a deep conversation with themselves about whatever they are feeling at that moment in time or what is going on deep inside them. Another is to find out what they think/feel/mean about something. This is different from asking someone,…
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