If Only

It’s common for people to get stuck in relationships, not because there is anything sticky in the relationship, not because there is any confusion or misunderstandings about it , but because we dwell on “if only.”  “If only they would do this….” or “If only we could be like that…” or “If only they wouldn’t…” or even “If only it could be like what is was before…” If only statements are neither bad nor good. …Details

There’s A Time For Everything

Life isn’t black and white, either/or, and how we live shouldn’t be either.  We should be practical and fanciful, clear-eyed and dreamy, living in the now but remembering our past and planning for our future.  We should be flexible enough to take advantage of opportunities as they arise, incorporating the results into ourselves, then adjusting the plan as necessary while keeping ourselves on an ever adjusting course. …Details

Be Like Water

Bruce Lee: Artist of Life (Bruce Lee Library) Bruce Lee writes: After spending many hours meditating and practicing, I gave up and went sailing alone in a junk. On the sea I thought of all my past training and got mad at myself and punched the water!…Details

Change – Some Assembly Required

There’s this weird thing that happens when people talk about moving forward in their lives or making changes or manifesting their purpose or their dreams or…whatever.  On the one hand they talk about how they want things to be and then in the next breath they turn and look back at how things have “always been” or “what happened when” and extrapolate the future based on that. …Details

Commitment

At some point you have to commit.  It doesn’t matter about the signs, about the approval of authority figures, permission from spiritual beings, the stars alignment or what your family thinks.  Too many times all these things are in agreement that we should do the thing we want most in the world and yet nothing happens. …Details

Don’t Assume

We sometimes build our own cages through assumptions or the opinions and assumptions of others.  Then we lock ourselves in them and rail at fate for making us a victim.  It’s a survival trait to put our energy into what we know will work. …Details

When Do Things Go Bad?

So many of us hope for and work for positive change in our lives.  We dream of the day when money isn’t a struggle, when we aren’t surrounded by people who treat us badly, when we are free to be who we truly are, when we can live the life we are meant to… and yet when it happens we don’t believe it. …Details