How much do you really know about yourself?

In our minds we create an image of who we are and who we can and will be.  And that image includes all the bad as well as the good and, in most cases, includes some pretty rigid rules.  We can figure out what the rules are pretty through a simple exercise:  Take a piece of paper and write down everything about yourself that you feel is pertinent.… Details

Feeding Ourselves

Have you noticed that when you are really into doing something, you can forget time altogether, not feel hungry, and when you’re done you still feel great?  And when you are bored or unhappy or feeling stuck all you can think about is food?… Details

Reward the work

Society so applauds competition that it creates competitive concepts within itself.  It makes additive behavior seem and feel like a reward and makes rewards look like self-indulgent behavior.  It makes self-sacrifice and hard work for others seem virtuous even, or specifically, when it is damaging to you and makes it feel like doing anything for the self hurts others.… Details

Taking that first step

Have you ever wanted something but felt overwhelmed by how much work it would take to get it?  Has it felt impossible to get from there to here?  That’s common.  We are, after all, only one person living in one moment at a time and most things that we want require a lot of moments and interacting with other people. … Details

Dream Big

We tend to talk and think in extremes.  Either we look at things as impossible and so limit the scope of whatever we might choose to make it ‘manageable’ and ‘see if anything comes of it’ or we know its impossible and so we think of the biggest, over the top variation of what we want (billions of dollars, mansions on floating islands in the sky) and limit ourselves that way by making what we want an absurdity.… Details

Trust issues

Everyone has trust issues.  We are taught from a very young age not to trust ourselves.  Parenting has become about scheduling, activities, ‘getting it right’ so that futures are bright, and having all the right things.  So many times I’ve seen babies so immersed in toys and objects that they cry just from the over stimulation and their inability to move in their environment. … Details

You know what makes you happy

It’s not the addictive substances or activities we use to medicate the pain away.  It’s the things that we’ve been taught don’t matter – sitting in the sunlight, crafting for no other purpose than just because you feel like it, going for a walk somewhere you’ve never been. … Details