Seeing what we want to see

Once again I’ve been confronted by people who appear to be looking for an answer, but just see what they want to see.  It’s frustrating because you just want to tell them “Stop hitting yourself!  Stop hitting yourself!”.  It’s like they walk into a store expecting to find nothing colored blue.  The store’s name is…

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Werewolves at the door

At some point in our lives everyone experiences this phenomena:  People who act like friends, like someone interested in the same goal or hobby or profession as you, someone who wants to spend time with you and be close to you.  And those things are all true and they walk their talk.  So what’s the…

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What’s next?

If you’re stuck in “I have no idea what to do next?”  try doing something completely different.  I once worked in an office where there was an archway into the middle section of the space.  And a great majority of the time, when people walked through the archway they forgot what they had come there…

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Phoning it in

It’s fair to say that most people do not enjoy the work they do.  Most subsist or do whatever it takes to survive.  It is a modern notion that the majority of people can have ‘fulfilling’ jobs.  And luckily we live in a world where there is the possibility of making that happen.  We can…

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Removing the obstacles

There are obstacles in life that can’t be changed.  If you’re paraplegic, that’s and obstacle we haven’t figured out how to move yet.  There are a lot of tools that you can use to help you do more things and be less restricted, but the fact is that you won’t be running marathons and no…

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I can’t

Rarely do you hear someone say “I can’t” when they are talking about themselves.  “I can’t” is a response phrase.  When someone makes a suggestion, a common response is an immediate “I can’t”.  Which I find interesting, because in about 88% of all cases it’s just not true.  What the person really means is they…

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You’re not lost

It’s the truth that no matter where you are, well…there you are.  You’re never lost because, as Captain Hammer would say “you home is where your heart is, so your real home’s in your chest.”  However, there are many ways in which we can become confused and uncentered which leads us down paths we wouldn’t…

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Previous Lives

I have never quite understood the notion that this one life is all we get.  It never felt right to me, because if that were true, all mistakes take on such crushingly huge proportions that we might never move.  It means that childhood, especially if it is abusive, is just a waste of time that…

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