Whose Narrative Is It?

Our lives are built out of the stories we tell.  The stories we tell each other, the ones we tell ourselves, and the ones our souls whisper to us late at night when they can get a word in edgewise.  Our dreams are just the stories our soul and our guides and our inner wisdom are telling us so we can grow and become. …Details

The Amount Matters

Sometimes trying just a little to see if you like it makes sense.  Just a little of the brussel sprouts or one chocolate scorpion will give you a good idea.  But it can’t get you past the psyched out, wired up pitch you’ve put yourself in so you can actually experience the tastes and textures and know if you actually like them. …Details

And Then What Happens?

Stories are written with a definitive beginning/middle/end.  We want to know the whole thing, we want to feel the outcome, to hear that settling and confirming last note.  Some of the most controversial episodes of Law & Order were the ones where you didn’t know the verdict at the end. …Details

Friendship

I’m a fan of John Scalzi and of his blog, http://whatever.scalzi.com/  He’s an intelligent writer with a sense of humor I appreciate.  What’s better is that he writes with a great deal of common sense and, most of the time, having thought about the topic beforehand. …Details

Why Don’t I Fit In?

Something that’s become a theme lately in my practice is people having issues with fitting in.  It’s a common enough thing, we’ve all been through it in childhood, specifically in the teen years, and it echoes throughout our adult lives off and on. …Details

For All The Wrong Reasons

Romeo and JulietPeople say “Follow your heart.  It will never lead you astray.”  To which I respond with three words “Romeo & Juliet.”  Feeling drawn to do something, feeling that it is necessary to do right now, that it’s significant in some way is definitely something we should be giving our undivided attention. …Details

I’m Working On Gratitude

“I don’t know what else to do or what next step to take so I’m working on gratitude for…”  So many memes about gratitude out there, so little time.  And yet, I hear over and over from people who no matter how much they work on being grateful, it doesn’t resolve their issues, doesn’t unstick them from what is stuck, doesn’t make them feel any happier, doesn’t make them any more grateful for what they have or had…In fact, working on gratitude often makes them feel bad about themselves because they should feel grateful but they don’t and their issues don’t get resolved and they can’t love their lives and there must be something broken inside them and they are terrible people!!!!…Details

Getting The Same Result

People ask me “what am I doing wrong?” and “what’s the lesson in this because it keeps happening?” which is a good place to start in looking at any given issue.  And sometimes there is a lesson and sometimes there is something being done wrong, but not always. …Details