Most people think of conversations as what we say. They think that what they express is through words, through speaking, through talking it out. There’s the printed word as well. Words on the screen, on the page, on the wall. Meaning comes through saying what we mean and meaning what we say. Whether we’re talking…
DetailsIn spiritual and therapeutic circles we talk about “giving permission.” We give ourselves permission to do this or that, be this or that. We give other’s permission to be or do this thing or the other. We release unnecessary boundaries that are holding us back from being authentic and fully experiencing all we can be…
DetailsWhen people talk about being vulnerable, they are usually referring to a situation where they were seen by other people. Whether that was on purpose like giving a presentation or not like not knowing your fly is down or your skirt is tucked up in back, these moments expose us…ahem… to others. We are without…
DetailsIn Brene Brown’s research she’s found these 10 things which are the key factors to living a wholehearted life. I struggle with at least half of them every single day. *sigh* What’s interesting to me is that when people talk about these things they see the first half as a goal they wish to achieve…
DetailsWe all like to be known and be seen. Well, as long as how we’re known is a positive thing. No one likes to be the local pariah. However, there’s a more practical side of being known and seen. Life is going on all around us all the time. We’re not an island in it,…
DetailsI don’t know how many times I’ve heard people describe their authentic self, their voice, in these lustrous terms. It’s loving and giving, making the world a better place and doing for others. It’s speaking the unvarnished truth about things and seeing the world clearly. It speaks in ringing tones about everything that’s possible and…
DetailsWe have trust issues. There. I’ve said it. Or maybe I should say that we mistrust. We trust backasswards? However you want to put it, we’re putting out trust in things we shouldn’t and mistrusting what we should. We don’t trust our feelings. On the one hand they are inconvenient, interrupting us at exactly the…
DetailsWhen we think or talk about loving ourselves or needing to love ourselves more, most people are talking about a feeling. We are referring to wanting to feel more compassionate about ourselves, who we are, our identity in the world and in ourselves, and to have better self-esteem. All of which is great and I’m…
DetailsWe are so very bad at it. It’s amazing. It’s as if we’re seeing our goals reflected in a hall of mirrors in the Fun House at a carnival and we’re setting our expectations and creating our To Do lists based on that reflection. We’re either setting goals way too high so they are completely…
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