Wisdom

Stop Digging the Hole

Taking responsibility for the results of our actions, our attitudes, our perspectives and our behaviors is necessary for good health and healthy relationships.  Of course, life wouldn’t be half as fun or irony filled if we did that on a consistent basis. …Details

Why Is Nothing Working?

For some people it can feel like absolutely everything that can go wrong is going wrong and the world is conspiring against them and they go looking for that magic thing either within them or outside of them that is the key to turn it all around. …Details

Hold Off On the Conclusions

“Unthinkably good things can happen even late in the game.” – Under the Tuscan Sun Our left brain is all about finding the meaning, categorizing, fitting things into patterns, etc. and because that’s what it does, it does it ad in finitum which can be a detriment. …Details

In The In Between

Ever notice that we don’t step right on the doorway into a room or a building?  We step from this space to that space without actually touching the door frame.  Sometimes we lean on the door frame to talk with someone or wait to get someone’s attention (*cough* teenagers *cough*) but even then if you look, the feet are usually either in one room or another. …Details

Now What Do I Do?

So what do you do when you’ve done everything you can think of and the issue is still there?  When you’ve asked for guidance and keep getting the same indecipherable answer, when you’ve tried everything that is logical, unlogical, inspired and desperate, and nothing makes a dent, when the movement you get is so infinitesimal that it doesn’t count, what then?…Details

One Step Forward

We’re taught that progress is the point, that going forward is good, that backwards is bad, and that we should always keep moving.  Then we get stuck and can’t seem to go forwards, can’t seem to fix what’s wrong, can’t move in the direction we want to be going and everything seems to fall apart. …Details

Emotional Absolutes

Isn’t it interesting how there are times in our lives where we decide that, for some reason, the state we are in is the way it is always going to be henceforward?  Even though that’s never the case because things are constantly changing inside and outside of us in every moment we’re alive? …Details

Putting the Pieces Together

Our lives are like the fridge in the kitchen or the note board on the wall.  Lots of things of various importance that we need to remember, access and deal with at some point all gathered together into some kind of system-ish. …Details

Learning at the Edges

I tend to push myself too hard for too long.  It’s a fact.  Don’t do as I do, do as I say.  LOL  I talk a good talk about keeping yourself in balance and listening to your inner voice and alla that because I have learned the lessons the hard way. …Details

Change Changes Things

Change can be very hard.  There are lots of quotes and memes about fear being the reason why we tend not to change, but I think we over emphasize that aspect of things.  Also, we tend to talk about change as if everything else around us is standing still and the only thing that is acting or not acting is us. …Details