I Can’t Or I Won’t

SarlaccIt’s a really common human thing to hold ourselves back.  Our brains will rationalize it and make it seem logical and real, but in the end it’s all about fear.  On the one hand that’s a good thing.  We should keep ourselves out of danger and doing what is healthy and good for us, but being highly developed social beings that are rarely being attacked by wild animals or swallowed whole in a Sarlacc pit our fears range the gamut from real to imagined to “wow!…Details

It Starts With Demo

There are so many examples in life of why it’s not a good idea to try to create something new in the remains of something old.  You don’t cook in a pot you haven’t cleaned first.  Um, yuck.  You don’t bring your new sweetheart into your home until you’ve removed all the evidence of the old sweetheart, not if you want to remain unscathed and have this new relationship work out. …Details

Veterans

Today in the United States we celebrate Veterans Day as a national holiday.  This has all the positives and draw backs of any other national holiday.  Most people have no real vested interest in it other than it’s a day off from work and it sucks the banks and post office are closed. …Details

Choosing No

I’m all about choosing yes.  At some point we have to decide that we’re going to do what we’re here to do, we’re going to reach out for the life we want, we’re going to be happy and we’re going to try to make that happen even if what we choose to do is wrong and we fail and succeed over and over again. …Details

Dive Into The Uknown

There’s a weird Catch 22 that people get into because they want things to change, but they are unwilling to release the death grip they have on them so the change can’t occur.  When prompted they will tell you they are afraid of the unknown and if they could just know what would happen, then they would be ok with letting go. …Details

Body Wisdom

We’re taught to think things through logically, make a plan, implement the plan in a logical manner, and good things will result.  You may even achieve your goal.  Yay!  But what if the goal is to know what is best for you? …Details

People & Behaviors

There are people that we enjoy.  We enjoy doing things with them, we enjoy having them around, and it’s ok when they go as well.  Like migratory birds we know they will be back again or we will join them and so there’s no angst, not worry, no regrets and no drive to do this or that. …Details

Making a New Groove

The holidays can be a treacherous time for those who are actively creating a life that matches who they are becoming.  These days are full of traditions and expectations, triggers and old behaviors, past acts and regrets, and people.  There are people we want to see because we love them, but we wince thinking about their behaviors and that we’re going to have to “deal” with them.…Details

Be Your Own Expert

When a pattern repeats in your life, it’s a good idea to examine that pattern.  There’s something there for you to learn.   But once the learning is done does the pattern automatically stop?  No.  That’s the conventional wisdom on the matter. …Details