Gaslighting the Holidays

Many people struggle with the holidays for a variety of reasons.  One is that they go into a visit with their family certain of who they are, what their place is in the world, and how the world works only to come home feeling as if they have just come back from a trip to Alice’s Wonderland.… Details

Allies Vs. Crutches

We associate crutches with being broken, limited ability to do things, and being needy hence we have developed the term “crutches” as a negative. We label things as being crutches that are preventing us from standing on our own two feet, dealing with our issues, as a means of avoidance, and a distraction from what needs to be taken care of. … Details

Building Yourself Up

stunning-elevated-beach-pole-home-in-australiaBuilding something which is going to need to carry weight, provide support, stand against negative external forces and keep its integrity over a long period of time needs a strong foundation. Not all foundations look the same. Trying to lay a slab foundation under a house which is cantilevered over a cliff is just pouring concrete down a slope. … Details

Holiday Choices

Peanuts ThanksgivingAt various times in my life I have had the opportunity to create holidays from scratch.  Not invent holidays, but create the holiday experience from the ground up.  In college I couldn’t afford to fly home for Thanksgiving so I caught up with some of my fellow students and we would create Thanksgiving for ourselves. … Details

Looks Good On Paper

Ever had an exchange with someone over email or text where you completely misunderstood what was meant? What is on paper loses something in translation and emoji and emoticons can’t quite make up for the emotional content which makes the intent and possibly the whole meaning mysterious and up to interpretation.… Details