Just The Way It Is

Just because a person knows there is an issue or that they have an issue…just because they know that how they behave is causing problems or that there is something they are just not getting, it doesn’t always follow that they will work to resolve it. …Details

The Boogeyman

When we become adults we let go of childish things. I’m not talking about becoming an adult thereby giving up the things you love and enjoy and even cherish.  I would lose my Geek Card if I even intimated that.  So I’m not….gorramit!…Details

Bad Thing or Good Thing?

In spiritual circles being ill is looked at as a bad thing.  It means something is wrong, we’re off balance, there is dis-ease and we need to be checking what the heck is going on.  Which is all true.  Even in the spiritual community we have to work against hundreds of years of enculturation and the loss of indigenous wisdom when it comes to understanding our bodies let alone having a healthy relationship with them. …Details

My Heart’s Desire

Hearts are very private things. What we feel in them is unseen and unheard by the outside world.  For others to perceive them we have to wear them on our sleeve or offer them to someone else and even then we’re only creating a window for them to be viewed. …Details

I Can’t Have It

People come to me dragging, depressed, and dispirited but with that little spark of hope left that lets them ask, “What am I supposed to be doing?”  When I ask them what they want to be doing they usually tell me “I don’t know what I want.”   And in the moment they really mean it. …Details

Thanks, Bob. I got it.

We’re taught to think things through.  To be logical.  To consider all the options and choose what’s best to do from those options.  It’s practical and will keep us on the straight and narrow right?  Well, not always.  Too often people allow the logical side of their nature lead in things, which it really isn’t meant to do. …Details

Be What You Want

Clients talk to me on a regular basis about wanting a relationship or wondering when the relationship they want is going to happen.  You know, “Where is my soul mate and when are they going to get here?” 85% of the time the answer is that it will happen when it happens but mostly when you dump the double standard. …Details

Silence Is An Answer

I have clients who tell me they have been asking and asking for an answer to this question and they get absolutely nothing.  Maybe this is the first time it’s happened and they feel lost and without a rudder or maybe it has happened before but never for this long.…Details

All The Feels

Emotions are like teenagers.  They don’t necessarily need intense conversation where their innermost source is brought to light and dissected, in fact that’s more attention than they can handle. In most cases what they need is to be acknowledged and heard, validated and left to their own devices. …Details