To Those Who Have Lost

My thoughts and prayers are with those who have lost loved ones in Paris today. Their shock, grief and loss is not a political statement, although it will be used in that way.  Their lives are not the raw material of symbols although they will be co-opted for that purpose.… Details

Broken Trust

Healing is a multistage process not matter what kind it is. Usually we can group the stages into two main phases: triage and recovery.  Triage is when we or others stop what is happening from going any further and then start the repair of the damage. … Details

How To Deal With Fear

I sometimes wonder what our culture would look like if we didn’t have the heroic ideal as the role model for how we should deal with problems or fears.  If we didn’t have all the rhetoric around standing your ground, facing your fears head on, working through the pain, going on no matter what the cost, what would our lives look like? … Details

The Body Remembers

The body has a knowing.  One way we experience this is through muscle memory which we experience through two general categories. The most commonly discussed is that used by athletes, dancers, performers, and martial artists which is gained through repetition of an action or set of actions. … Details

Tilting At Passions

DonkeyPeople say they don’t know what they are passionate about, but that’s not really so.  If you scratch the surface you’ll find they are passionate about a whole lot of things on the plus and minus side. If they weren’t they wouldn’t have that rule about not discussing politics or religion with most anyone and especially not at the dinner table, if they still eat meals with other people.… Details

Is It Working?

When I’m not working with clients I’m creating new content from blog posts to the weekly teaching newsletter to class writing or book writing.  Wedged in there is the necessary business things that make a business go.  For the most part things run smoothly so there’s not a lot of paperwork or adjustment that needs to be done which is great because there is only one of me to go around and I need to breathe at some point.… Details

Once Again With Feeling

Our minds are amazing problem solvers.  If we start thinking about something, even vaguely, all of a sudden information start spooling out, ideas about what I could do with that, what could be, how I would do it differently, ‘hmmmm…I’d like to know more about that…’, and on and on. … Details