They Have Names

  Edward Sotomayor Jr., 34 years old Edward Sotomayor was a caring, energetic man known for wearing a silly top hat on cruises, said David Sotomayor, who identified himself as the victim’s cousin. David Sotomayor, who lives in Chicago, told The Associated Press Sunday that Edward worked for a company that held gay cruises and…

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What Is Tired?

It’s the end of the day or the end of the week and you’re exhausted. You can hear the echoes of every conversation, request, meeting, order, and question that connected with you like music turned up just a little too loud. Everything we’ve done, got left to do, should be doing, need to get done…

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Keep the Mind Busy

So many of my clients come to me stuck with this conundrum: All the sages, gurus, and elders tell them they should meditate to clear and quiet their mind. This will allow them to center, receive wisdom, and come into harmony with themselves and the world around them. They can’t quiet their mind no matter…

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The Alchemy In Doing

One of the hardest things to do is remember what you thought something was going to be like after you’ve experienced it.  It’s like the brain goes back and writes over that section, putting the memories of the experience over our expectations of what the experience would be. We can remember the fear, the excitement,…

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That One Thing

People aren’t often truthful about what they want. Not that they are trying to mislead us for nefarious purposes, but usually they are either uncomfortable claiming the truth or they aren’t even sure what it is. Some people know what they want, but it to have it would require they make transformative changes in their…

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Working From A Full Cup

We’re taught to get the work done first and then we can do what will make us happy.  You know, “Do your homework or you don’t get to go out and play.” It’s practical, it builds a good work ethic, it’s a virtue to be able to work hard and achieve, blah-blah-blah.  It’s true like…

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Don’t Just Thank Them

I’m a sucker for the videos of soldiers surprising their kids as a welcome home and ads where people tell our military “thanks for your service” but that’s all well and good. But out of sight, out of mind and once I or they have walked past, once the holiday is over, they still deal…

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And Then The Healing Begins

Naturally our primary focus in healing is to stop the bleeding. We need to find the cause for the self-defeating behavior, the inability to let things go even decades later, the damaging relationship patterns that inform every connection we try to make, the depression, self-sabotage, addictions, driven to the point of destruction issues that make…

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