Books, movies, TV all like the dramatic gesture and the emotional tension of long-term issues exploding. It draws in the audience and makes them want to find out what happens next, but it also habituates us to see things in dramatic terms. When something has been going on for a long time we should feel…
DetailsSometimes my clients are resistant to change because they misunderstand what is their essential nature, what they have been taught, and what is a survival mechanism developed through circumstance. There are those who think they are loners who instead keep themselves isolated because that’s how they learned they can be safe. But now that isolation…
DetailsA great deal of life is about decoding things. We have an experience, get a message, but the meaning isn’t clear and we end up having to figure it out on our own. Most lessons come either through pleasure (Yay! I like that) or pain (Owwww!!!! Stop that!). But pain has many different messages that…
DetailsSometimes to have what you really want, to do and be what you really want, you have to go through being uncomfortable. Want an example, here’s one of mine. I’m a middle-aged woman huffing and puffing out there, but the joy of actually doing it, of reclaiming a part of myself that has been dormant…
DetailsDo something. One of the biggest problems that people face when it comes to achieving their dreams, walking their path, or improving their lives is they do anything and everything other than actually doing something that moves them towards the goal. I’ve talked with a number of clients who are still exactly where they were…
DetailsThe New Codependency by Melody Beattie Codependency is normal behavior, plus. There are times we do too much, care too much, feel too little, or overly engage. We forget where the other person’s responsibilities begin and our responsibilities stop. Or we get busy and have so much to do that we neglect ourselves. Codependents may…
DetailsI was talking with a therapist one day when they mentioned how many clients come in like donkey’s weighted down with so much baggage from their families that they can barely lift their heads. They sit down and relate family history that happened before they were born, sometimes generations before they were born but in…
DetailsSo many times I hear reports from students and clients about their Akashic experiences, about their current personal experiences and about what they are looking for and in all of it they relate to me what the meaning of it is even though they have questions about what it all means. :/ This and this…
DetailsThere was an interesting discussion in yoga class today about faith. Most of those in the class had grown up in the US and so equate faith belief or having a belief system. However, in yoga these two things are not the same. Faith is itself and can be expressed through a variety of means. …
DetailsWhen I was in my teens and 20’s there were many things that mystified me. Rental applications where the person asking me about my background was wearing a wife beater t-shirt and hadn’t bathed in a while, what was really in Cheetos and should I care, you know, the big stuff. But also this weird…
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