We tend to think of things in the big picture, the large chunks, and ignore or negate the small things that make up the big picture.  Like the fact that it can take 10,000 hours to become a master of something. …Details

All That Matters

The debate over grace vs. good works is something that has intrigued me since I was a child.  It seemed to be an example of the dysfunction going on in my own home.  Lots of words being spoken about what should be and what is that didn’t match what was actually happening mixed with a dose of denial and a ration of rationalization. …Details

Akashic Ice Cubes

“The Ain (Akasha) is limitless and timeless so that all that issues forth from its bosom does so without in any way diminishing its substance.  Actually, in a sense there is nothing outside of this condition, even that which we see and recognise as the physical universe is so only because the Ain has chosen to extend a portion of itself into materiality.…Details

Listening But Not Hearing

It’s a common refrain in drama and comedy, one person is talking and the other is listening, but not actually hearing what is going on with dramatic or comedic results.  Shakespeare is full of this stuff which is one of the reasons that his plays are still loved and relevant today.…Details

Self Sabotage

Self-sabotage is something I see a lot with my clients.  What’s interesting is they fear that it’s their way more than I actually see it happening, which is probably a good thing.  Awareness is the first step and alla that.  And for the most part it’s not conscious, not willful, but a reaction or a subconscious identity piece that they haven’t yet dealt with. …Details

Prepping for Slayage Conference

So what does someone like me do when I want a vacation?  Go to an academic conference of course!  But not one that has anything to do with work.  That would be….work… So I’m going to the Slayage Conference in a little over a week and in preparation I’m reviewing Seasons 6,7 of Buffy and Seasons 3,4,5 of Angel. …Details

Absolute Assumptions

Sometimes I’m talking with a client and realize how inadequate language is as a tool for communication.  I swear, interpretive dance may seem ludicrous, but it’s probably more effective than some conversations I get into.  Because words are symbols and some people imbue them with one absolute meaning and assume that everyone else believes or agrees with them about that meaning and form whole conversations accordingly.…Details

What Was The Part In the Middle?

Ever leave a situation feeling unsatisfied, because everything seems ok and perfectly normal, but something in the back of your mind is nagging, like an itch you can’t scratch and you don’t know quite what it is?  Something got missed.  Something should have been said and wasn’t or something was said and the point didn’t get made. …Details

I Don’t Know How I’ll Squeeze It In

So many times when I speak with people about choosing themselves, living their best life, achieving their dreams, blah-de-blah-de-blah, I see the reaction “I don’t know how I’m going to squeeze that in with everything else I HAVE to do.”  From there I try to determine if that’s just a knee jerk reaction because they haven’t thought of prioritizing the win/win scenario of living their best so they have the best to offer others or if they really feel that the life they’ve created for themselves is a law of physics like gravity, a black hole they are headed to which they can’t escape.…Details