Wisdom

The Right Teacher/Community

The myth floating around the spiritual community is that when the student is ready a teacher will come. That teacher will be carrying the magical map to “Enlightenment,” all the supplies necessary for the student to identify and follow their path, and the key to a community who is everything their family has never been and never will be. … Details

Avoidance in Holy Drag

An introduction to Spiritual Bypassing by Robert Masters “Spiritual bypassing, a term first coined by psychologist John Welwood in 1984, is the use of spiritual practices and beliefs to avoid dealing with our painful feelings, unresolved wounds, and developmental needs.  It is much more common than we might think and, in fact, is so pervasive as to go largely unnoticed, except in its more obvious extremes.… Details

The Equinox Unfolds

I know the weather is wonky for everyone.  It’s too dry, it’s too wet, we’re all living in the story of Goldilocks and the 3 Bears except we haven’t found anything that’s “just right” yet. *sigh*  However, the world keeps spinning regardless of our desires and just today, just as it was officially Spring for me here, my African Violet decided to do this.… Details

Female Sins

“Oh, Hell. I’m a fan of all seven.” – Malcolm Reynolds Serenity What if the sins enumerated in the Bible weren’t universal, but instead were formulated to describe a masculine perspective?  If so then they would describe the negative aspects of men, not necessarily of women. … Details

Beware the Tar Baby

Most of the time what is necessary to get things done is to roll up your sleeves, dig in and start doing. It may not be fun or even pleasant, but the sooner it’s started the sooner it’s done and you can get on to other things.… Details

Emotional Judgment

It is a common tactic of an abuser to judge our feelings. Some feelings, those that promote the interests of the abuser, are considered good. The others are bad. This is because there are emotions which empower us, that indicate when a boundary has been violated and spur to into action to prevent any further damage and to reassert the boundary.… Details

What If It’s Not A Duck?

You know the saying, “If it looks like a duck and acts like a duck and sounds like a duck then it’s probably..”  There’s a lot of truth to that which people ignore on a really regular basis especially in relationships. … Details

“Oh, Honey, Just Forgive and Forget”

From The Courage to Heal by Ellen Bass and Laura Davis It is never helpful to tell a survivor of child sexual abuse that she needs to forgive the person who abused her. This advice minimized and denies the validity of her feelings.… Details