But We’re Friends…

The notion of marriage being about romance, about fulfillment of our emotional needs, having anything to do with a soul connection, that’s an amazingly recent development.  It’s really blossomed in the past 150 years, but prior to that, it was a rare notion that was indulged in poetry and fiction, not because it was common…

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Acting Vs. Reacting

Most of us have people in our lives in some capacity who have their own agenda and need to tear us down, minimize us, keep us off-balance, make us feel incompetent or small or worthless.  They keep us reacting to them, to things that they want, perpetually trying to argue with them, make them see…

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Create Your Own Life

Take a moment and think about the life you could have if you had the ability to create it.  Would there be travel?  Would it have a different house?  Music?  Would there be dancing? Sports?  How about friends?  Solitude?  Community?  Conversation?  Is there art?  Spa settings?  Parkour?  What do your days look like?  Not what…

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I’d Like to Make An Introduction

Hi Everyone.  I’d like to introduce someone to you. Well, several someones.  You may know a few of these guys, but most of them you’ve never met before and it’s time we got this party started.  So here goes:  Everyone, I’d like you to meet your feelings.  Feelings, here’s everyone. Beginnings are awkward and I…

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Being Connected

We humans are social creatures.  We’re meant to belong in a variety of ways.  We have connections to our family of origin and make new ones by marriage and by having children.  We create community through our friends and our families of choice.  We join groups, meet others who share our interests, have geographic connections…

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We Are Divine Source

In the 16th century Rabbi Isaac Luria started teaching about the beginnings of the universe.  God withdrew itself making a space where there was nothing, therefore something could come into being.  Drawing from itself it created urns which it filled with its essence.  Unfortunately not all the pots were able to contain such an amount…

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Invent Your Own Life’s Meaning

“Creating a life that reflects your values and satisfies your soul is a rare achievement. In a culture that relentlessly promotes avarice and excess as the good life, a person happy doing his own work is usually considered an eccentric, if not a subversive. Ambition is only understood if it’s to rise to the top…

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If Only

It’s common for people to get stuck in relationships, not because there is anything sticky in the relationship, not because there is any confusion or misunderstandings about it , but because we dwell on “if only.”  “If only they would do this….” or “If only we could be like that…” or “If only they wouldn’t…” or…

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