People confuse blame and responsibility all the time. Blame is what we use when we are emotionally charged about something. It’s the word that comes to mind when we are angry or hurt or aggrieved over something. We want something done about the situation. We want our feelings to change. We want things to move…
DetailsPeople don’t give themselves enough credit. They focus on themselves, listening to their inner guidance, pay attention to their conscience, take action to bring their lives into harmony with all that, start moving towards making their dreams a reality and then they ask, “So, you think I’m on the right track? Is this what I’m…
DetailsClients sometimes come to me with preconceptions of what is causing them distress and what will resolve the issue. They come to me wanting validation of these preconceptions and the identities they’ve built for themselves validated. They can be desperate for this, in fact, as if it’s a lifeline to a drowning person and that…
DetailsWe sometimes think that all or nothing thinking is the purview of the young. That only the teens and 20 somethings see the world in black or white and make all or nothing decisions. But apocalyptic thinking comes in all age groups, seeing only one way out happens to all of us at some point,…
DetailsThere are plenty of ancient sayings about this, about bending so you won’t break and so on. It’s true. But people focus on the bendy part and not so much on the strength. As if we’re all amazingly strong and persevere through anything and the problem is to look up from all this strength we’re…
DetailsGetting grounded isn’t just something your parents did to you and it’s not just about sitting out on a rock being still or calming down. Grounding is an active process, half of the equation for healers and spiritual practitioners. Without it we get sick, or overwhelmed, dealing with a host of symptoms as we get…
Details“No matter what I do, this always happens to me. I just don’t get it!” When someone says this to me I know it’s the queue to look at the pattern. Yes, I commiserate because I’m human and I have/do/am experiencing the same type of stuckness and frustration. I have lived through the “try everything”…
DetailsDream Big! Take things one step at a time. Separate things into small bits so they are manageable in the day-to-day. Here what this is implying? Dreams are BIG! Things unconnected to reality can be grand and perfect and expansive and full of freedom. The practical and the day-to-day is small because that’s all we…
DetailsYes, we should all accept our uniqueness, cherish our weirdness, ignore everyone else’s opinions and go down our own particular path. I’m all for it. But we’re not islands. Most of us are not meant to be lone explorers venturing to parts unknown only to be heard from every 2-5 years. We’re social beings and…
DetailsNo one likes nagging and we get pretty tired of naggers as well. As a tool in a relational, social, connection based society, nagging has a limited ROI (return on investment) with diminishing returns which, when things dip into the negative, have dire consequences. All of which means that nagging works once in a great…
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