It’s all small stuff

Know that saying ‘Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s all small stuff.’  Well, yes.  In the end, unless you’re a Marvel comic’s super hero or a brain surgeon or a rocket scientist, it’s all small stuff.  So don’t sweat it.  But do pay attention to it.  Because who you are is spelled out in the…

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So where do you go from here?

So what do you do once you’ve tried something and it didn’t turn out the way you thought?  You have a college degree but there is no job out there for you and you’re back living at home with your parents…your marriage is trashed and he’s gone and now you have a baby to take care…

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What kind of warrior are you?

So there is very much a difference between a soldier and a warrior.  A soldier is someone who, either by draft or by choice, is part of a structured army or fighting force with a leader that sends them to fight for a cause, theoretical or practical.   A warrior is someone who is willing to…

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It’s not about wars.

This is Memorial Day.  With all its odd mixture of Nationalist rhetoric, pro/anti-war sentiment, sadness for he fallen, vague guilt that we should feel/do/be something we aren’t, anger that we are something we never wanted to be, and the need to stop the hurting.  No wonder people run away from home this weekend. Being Native American I’m not interested…

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Pick your battles

You can pick your friends and you can pick your nose….No, no that’s not what I mean.  In many situations as adults we learn that choosing what is worth attempting to change or challenge is worthwhile because not everything is worth the effort.  We are happier if we don’t spend all of our time challenging…

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Challenge your beliefs

Sometimes the oddest beliefs are taught to us by our families.  And we don’t realize that’s what they are and that we live our lives by them until something brings them into bold relief.  Early in my career I was given the opportunity to learn American Sign Language and work as an interpreter.  During the…

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