Know that saying ‘Don’t sweat the small stuff. It’s all small stuff.’ Well, yes. In the end, unless you’re a Marvel comic’s super hero or a brain surgeon or a rocket scientist, it’s all small stuff. So don’t sweat it. But do pay attention to it. Because who you are is spelled out in the…
DetailsSo what do you do once you’ve tried something and it didn’t turn out the way you thought? You have a college degree but there is no job out there for you and you’re back living at home with your parents…your marriage is trashed and he’s gone and now you have a baby to take care…
DetailsEven if you know who you are or what you want, doesn’t mean that everything becomes easy and smooth sailing. You still have to figure out who to get where you want to go, you have to figure out how to get the money, how to work with other people, how to deal with issues as they…
DetailsSo there is very much a difference between a soldier and a warrior. A soldier is someone who, either by draft or by choice, is part of a structured army or fighting force with a leader that sends them to fight for a cause, theoretical or practical. A warrior is someone who is willing to…
DetailsThis is Memorial Day. With all its odd mixture of Nationalist rhetoric, pro/anti-war sentiment, sadness for he fallen, vague guilt that we should feel/do/be something we aren’t, anger that we are something we never wanted to be, and the need to stop the hurting. No wonder people run away from home this weekend. Being Native American I’m not interested…
DetailsVacations are amazing things. We go somewhere complete different, do different things, have a different schedule, and hopefully come back refreshed and exhilarated or at least more experienced. But what are we coming back to? Vacations are not one way; they are round trip. Like a boomerang you are coming back. So what is the actual purpose of…
DetailsWhat do you do to ‘motivate’ yourself into doing something that would be good for you in the long-term but is difficult and not necessarily enjoyable in the short-term? Do you keep yourself focused on today and pat yourself on the back when you succeed? Do you beat yourself up daily/hourly when you fail to…
DetailsI never thought I would say this, but there is cosmic truth in the airline flight safety instructions we are all forced to sit through (try to ignore). Pay close attention when you are told “In the case of a sudden drop in cabin air pressure, first secure your own mask before helping others flying…
DetailsYou can pick your friends and you can pick your nose….No, no that’s not what I mean. In many situations as adults we learn that choosing what is worth attempting to change or challenge is worthwhile because not everything is worth the effort. We are happier if we don’t spend all of our time challenging…
DetailsSometimes the oddest beliefs are taught to us by our families. And we don’t realize that’s what they are and that we live our lives by them until something brings them into bold relief. Early in my career I was given the opportunity to learn American Sign Language and work as an interpreter. During the…
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