Facets and Definitions

I always find it interesting when someone tells me, “I’ve never seen that side of you before”.  Or they say “My life is just such a bunch of contradictions”.  Our minds what to analyze and organize what it perceives into a system that makes sense so it can manage the chaos of all the input…

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Triggers

A trigger is something that just makes you absolutely crazy every time it appears or occurs.  It’s not due to something happening in the moment, but something that has happened before and that hasn’t been resolved.  Like an absolute gag reflex to even a mention of peppermint schnapps because you got drunk and threw up…

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Don’t drive angry

“Don’t drive angry” is a phrase I keep on stand by not for use with road rage, because at this point it’s not something that can be avoided, it’s just something to be dealt with, like taxes.  What I mean by that is stop and calm down for a minute.  It’s good to be in…

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How do others affect your life?

Do you recognize how much others affect your life?  That a chance encounter can set things spinning that affects you in the future?  We like to think about this when we are thinking about romance and good luck and the lottery.  That’s when the butterfly flapping its wings in China which causes the flowers to…

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Do something completely different

Having done it often in my life I tend to forget how many people don’t.  Which is I guess a way to keep my life full of surprises.  What do yo mean you haven’t gone on sabbatical/taken a pilgrimage/done a retreat/hiked in the wilderness/lived in silence for a week/volunteered for more than one day/traveled to…

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Your body has other plans

Life is happening, you have hopes for what you will be doing these next few days, people need your presence, but your body has other plans.    There are things you would enjoy doing, things you would love to do, things that you need to do, but your body has other plans.  And you win the…

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Marshmallow Dead People

I once had a very startling dream.  I was walking through a building, past people of all types, and as I came out of a hallway into a large room I saw that the people around me were what I ended up calling the marshmallow dead people.  They were nothing like Zombies.  They were living…

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Seeing what we want to see

Once again I’ve been confronted by people who appear to be looking for an answer, but just see what they want to see.  It’s frustrating because you just want to tell them “Stop hitting yourself!  Stop hitting yourself!”.  It’s like they walk into a store expecting to find nothing colored blue.  The store’s name is…

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Werewolves at the door

At some point in our lives everyone experiences this phenomena:  People who act like friends, like someone interested in the same goal or hobby or profession as you, someone who wants to spend time with you and be close to you.  And those things are all true and they walk their talk.  So what’s the…

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