It’s not about wars.

This is Memorial Day.  With all its odd mixture of Nationalist rhetoric, pro/anti-war sentiment, sadness for he fallen, vague guilt that we should feel/do/be something we aren’t, anger that we are something we never wanted to be, and the need to stop the hurting. … Details

Pick your battles

You can pick your friends and you can pick your nose….No, no that’s not what I mean.  In many situations as adults we learn that choosing what is worth attempting to change or challenge is worthwhile because not everything is worth the effort. … Details

Challenge your beliefs

Sometimes the oddest beliefs are taught to us by our families.  And we don’t realize that’s what they are and that we live our lives by them until something brings them into bold relief.  Early in my career I was given the opportunity to learn American Sign Language and work as an interpreter. … Details

You are evidence of what you believe

Ever heard “Words are just words” or “Actions speak louder than words”?  While words have power, our actions show our beliefs and our intent even if we don’t know consciously what they are saying.  Choosing over and over to stay home and watch other people live their lives says that you’re not good enough and others are more worthy. … Details

How much do you really know about yourself?

In our minds we create an image of who we are and who we can and will be.  And that image includes all the bad as well as the good and, in most cases, includes some pretty rigid rules.  We can figure out what the rules are pretty through a simple exercise:  Take a piece of paper and write down everything about yourself that you feel is pertinent.… Details