People tend to have this impression that once they are healed or adult or get their shit together or magically make it out of whatever situation they are working through, the fog will clear, they will magically perceive everything “normally” and they’ll no longer have any connection to where they came from or what they’ve…
DetailsSometimes people come to me with specific questions or issues. They want to know about why a one time event happened, about this physical ailment they’re experiencing, or about this one relationship and what it means. Often it’s very specific and while they are giving me the details of what occurred, what they think it…
DetailsMost of us have heard of that old argument between the letter of the law and the spirit of the law. I mean it starts way back in school when you hear someone yell “Yeah, but that’s not what she meant!!!” Ah, the teachable moments when kids figure out how to manipulate the system. Good…
DetailsYou know when someone is tearing the house apart trying to find something, just desperate, they can’t do one more thing without finding….and you ask what they are looking for and it’s their glasses. Then you point out the glasses are on their head? Funny and problem solved right? Endearing unless it’s the 112th time…
DetailsPersonal time or “The life we’re doing all this for” has become a catchall term for whatever we’re doing that isn’t work or sleeping. It includes all the household chores and maintenance, errands (household chores that need to be done outside the home), exercise for the purpose of maintaining health and body weight, connecting with…
DetailsAlong with the moving forward into who we want to be/the life we want to live and letting go of the past, there’s also the reclaiming what was lost. Many people miss this part of the procedure and end up with empty spaces or regrets or simply a feeling of loss. Others make themselves feel…
Details“I can’t” is a common enough phrase. It’s supposed to indicate that something isn’t possible and usually comes with an order of “because.” It’s a phrase that has become so overused that it doesn’t have much meaning any more. When I hear it (apart from when it is used to indicate that logistics are a…
DetailsMost writers will tell you that writing the beginning of the story is the hardest part. You usually already have the meat of the piece when you start, you are in the middle of the story, all the good stuff is swirling all around you and you want to get at it. Writing the beginning…
DetailsOne of the biggest gifts I received from higher education was a deep understanding of how I learn. Not only did my degrees force facts and knowledge and trivial pursuit answers into my head, but they helped me figure out how to continue the process. They not only gave me the fish they taught me…
DetailsWe all need community. We need friends and acquaintances and a social network with a variety of connections in it so no one person is expected to do and be everything for us and we can get all of our needs met, since we’re not islands and not necessarily meant to be self-sufficient. Add or…
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