You know what makes you happy

It’s not the addictive substances or activities we use to medicate the pain away.  It’s the things that we’ve been taught don’t matter – sitting in the sunlight, crafting for no other purpose than just because you feel like it, going for a walk somewhere you’ve never been. …Details

What are addictions?

Addictions are medicine.  Something inside us feels bad.  Rarely is this physical.  Addictions actually hurt the body and cause it to react negatively.  Addictions are medicine for emotions, fear, sadness, loneliness, despair, anxiety, and hopelessness to name a few.  Using the addictive substance or activity alleviates those feelings momentarily. …Details

Addictions are usually just the symptom

Addictions, to food/sex/drugs/TV/alcohol/gambling, are usually just a symptom of something more.  They are an escape or a way to try and stop whatever feeling is going on inside your body and your heart.  Whether they are a way to deal with depression, feeling like a victim, feeling lost, or lonliness, they are a way that you are attempting to feel better. …Details

What to do with addictions

Addictions are a difficult subject because the knee jerk reaction is to say, well just stop doing *addiction* and everything will be resolved. But if it were that simple then they wouldn’t be addictions, would they. They would just be habits or quirks of character that no one would worry about much and would go away eventually.…Details

It’s hard to ask for help

It’s hard to ask for help. We’d rather do things ourselves because it’s easier, even if it isn’t better. Asking for help opens us up for criticism. It opens us up to “why?”, to other’s opinions. And when you need help you can feel vulnerable and the last thing you want to do is defend yourself from opinions or ‘why’ questions.…Details

Sometimes it’s just nice to feel loved

Everyone searches for that combination of people and circumstances and things which will bring back that feeling of unconditional love. Some of us experience it as children if we have loving families, but as we mature we learn that families are people too and while we may be loved unconditionally, that love still comes from human beings living human lives.…Details

You are more than you realize already

The human body is a finite structure that is perfect for dealing with life here as we know it.  Ok, so I hear you pointing out acne, backfat, allergies, and pinkeye among other things to prove me wrong, however I would like to think that bipedal motion, opposable thumbs, and the human brain are pretty amazing and get us through an average day with as much opportunity for joy as misery.…Details