Why did this happen to me?

Human beings look for patterns and for meaning in everything. This is our means of being safe since we don’t have claws or amazingly sharp teeth, incredible speed or bulk to keep us out of harms way.  We need to understand why even if it’s just at the level of “why is the remote now working? …Details

The Tantrum Factor

As children a theme in our life is about authority, access, and power over.  Having access to a room in the house so I can call it my own, power over siblings, having authority to make the choice of what to eat or what to do any given day…which all sounds so malevolent, but really its just wanting to be adult. …Details

Out of the Blue

I’m pretty sure every one of us has experienced this:  Life is going along normally, everything seems to be in its rightful place, we’re thinking about the normal things to worry about and to expect, then *WHAM*.  Something happens that completely changes everything and you never saw it coming. …Details

More than the day-to-day

It is easy to let our lives become about the day-to-day.  About getting from here to there, coordinating schedules, keeping track of people and things in our lives, and let all of that dictate how we live our lives.  Let alone other’s expectations of us, the responsibilities we have to jobs, associations, family, etc. …Details

Trust Yourself

Our culture pounds into us the counter intuitive lessons that only our 5 senses count as a way to navigate the world, that only logic will help you through life, that doing what’s expected and what everyone else does will make you happy, that agreeing with what others think and do will make you happy…I could go on and on and on.…Details


My friends would laugh and deny it, but I do value and utilize procrastination…..a little bit….sometimes….depending on the situation. I mean, why soldier through life when it is beautiful outside?  I’d much rather be out on my deck enjoying a beer or doing yoga (no beer with yoga, please) or out hiking or hanging in the park rather than doing dishes, laundry, or pretty much any other mundane ‘have to’ in the world. …Details

So what are you going to do about it?

I’m sure you have people like this in your life.  Every day its the same gripe or complaint.  Everyday there is something to gripe about it.  And once the griping is done everyone feels down and frustrated and out of sorts and the person griping feels vindicated and better about their position in the universe. …Details